While sometimes the urge to "skip a step" or "hurry through a part of a particular routine" is very tempting, it's not worth it. You see a sweet little dark haired girl WILL mime to you the portion you have skipped and insist it's done! Her little world is out of order. And, most likely she will be persistent that you complete the missed step.
If you put yourself in her little shoes, and think about it, it makes sense doesn't it? WHY she would probably have some of those thoughts and feelings.On September 1st, her life was turned upside down. All "knowns" were thrown out the window. All familiar faces disappeared. The language she was familiar with hearing vanished. The food she ate and the smells that accompanied those foods were gone. For so many weeks, she didn't know what to expect was coming next, where she was headed or who she might be seeing. (hopefully we eased those unknowns a wee bit by the infamous laminated photo ring (wink/wink)
Now, after several weeks of sameness and routine, she knows some of what to expect and it feels good to her! So, don't mess with even one step of routine!!
An example of this happened not so long ago. Supper time at the Zimmerman home is family time. For twenty seven years I have tried my best to have supper as a family - together! Having a large family that has a whole host of age ranges, there are certainly times and schedules that simply don't allow ALL members to be here, but we try. Lucy has caught onto this "family routine" and very much likes it! And just like most families, we all have our (unofficial) "assigned" seating arrangements where we sit every single meal. One evening, our daughter, Emily could not be here for supper due to her music rehearsal schedule. The two youngest boys decided it would be fun to have big brother, Kurt sit in between them since Emily wasn't going to be home (where she would normally sit). So they moved his place setting between theirs. We were all at the table waiting on Kurt. While waiting on him, we held hands in anticipation of family prayer (as is our tradition). Kurt, knowing we're waiting, came running up the steps, sees his plate is moved and being the flexible guy that he is, simply takes a seat where his brothers have put his place setting.
HOLD THE PHONE!! Lucy immediately let go of Mommy and Daddy's hands and is unable to pray - she needs to get things "right!" She sternly looks at big brother, says "Kut, Kut" ("r" sound is hard for her to say) and motions him to go to his normal seating place and says the word SIT. She was distraught by this change. We all burst out in laughter at her stern face and perfect mime motions. Laughing obviously because only the words "Kut, Kut" and "sit" were needed - she mimed it from there. We also found it funny that this big twenty year old brother looks at us and says "should I move, so she's happy?" (he's a sweetheart of a brother!!)
|Kurt and Lucy|
|Sadie and Lucy|
|The infamous bean bin|
|Block building buddies|
On another day, I dressed for the day and realized when getting Lucy ready that she had the same color pants and shirt as Mama - so we dressed alike. She learned the word "same" that day!!
Remember our trip to the Asian grocery store, where I bought "roasted seaweed?" Lucy loves it!
("don't knock it 'til you've tried it")
|Lovin' the roasted seaweed|
Our family is blessed with the love and support of family as well as friends. In an earlier blog post here, I wrote a few ideas of how others could support an adoptive family. I did not write "take other children out for a big bike ride to tire them out" but my dear sister, Rhonda did just that (great idea or what?!) Obviously, a lot of time these days is devoted to taking care of Lucy and helping her with the transition. This time was special for some of the others! (thanks so much Aunt Rhonda!!)
|Helping Aunt Rhon hook on the bike carrier|
|Ready for the bike trail!|
|Big sis and lil' sis!|
Today's my birthday, and I am blessed far beyond what I deserve. I just love my nest full!
At this time of year when we turn our minds and hearts to reflecting on all we're thankful for.....we're so appreciative of your love and support and for being pieces of the puzzle in bringing Lucy home! In God's provision through you, there is one less orphan this Thanksgiving and Christmas! We'll keep the camera handy as we look forward to celebrating Lucy's first Thanksgiving and Christmas with her family! Stay tuned......